Let’s be honest, most people get curious or interested when the subject of sex comes up. You may not know this, but a lot of people experience challenges in their sexual life. If you are one of these people, you might be feeling alone or “abnormal”. What you don’t realize is that not many people talk about their sexual difficulties, and so you wouldn’t know if people who are close to you may also be struggling. You probably haven’t opened up to your friends or family about it, so how can you expect others to open up to you? Just remember that you are not alone.
Maybe you simply have some questions, or even want to enhance your sexual connection and pleasure, and why shouldn’t you? Everyone deserves a healthy and fulfilling intimate life. No matter how old you are, or which stage in of your relationship you are in, it’s never too late or too soon to achieve what you want. I use the term “wellness” here because I don’t want to just focus on the “disorder” or “dysfunction”. I want us to focus on well-being and help you thrive.
I have worked with hundreds of individuals and couples who simply wanted to enhance their sexual experiences together, or were actually suffering from sexual challenges. Whichever one applies to you, I would love to work with you to help you achieve your goals.
How I can help promote sexual wellness in your life?
What differentiates me from life coaches and other psychotherapists/psychologists is that I am specialized in this area. My educational and professional path was mainly focused on sexual and relationship counseling, and I have years of experience working with hundreds of clients helping them overcome their sexual challenges and achieve sexual wellness.
I provide a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss your sexual thoughts and goals, in order for us to understand the underlying factors, where I will then offer proper education, helpful suggestions, and tasks and exercises to practice at home. This is a not a medical treatment, there will be no physical examination or hands-on work. With your collaboration, and my integrated approach, you will learn how to create a healthy and enjoyable sexual relationship.
Common sexual difficulties I work with
Generally speaking my previous experience as a licensed Psychosexual Therapist has mostly revolved around the common sexual dysfunctions. I have worked for the past several years with clients who have experienced loss of desire, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, vaginismus (or an unconsummated marriage), anorgasmia, painful sex, in addition to other less common sexual concerns.
Though these are the most frequent presenting issues clients have come to me with, it does not mean that my work is limited to those difficulties. I am a huge supporter of couples seeking opportunities to nurture and strengthen their relationships before things get tough, so if you’re up for just looking at how you can keep the spark alive, or have concerns that haven’t developed into full-fledged difficulties, I would love to work with you!
If you are experiencing sexual difficulties such as loss of desire, erectile dysfunction, or pain, it is usually a good idea to run some tests and get a physical exam done by your doctor first, as some medical issues such as hormonal imbalances, infections/inflammation, and other health issues could be likely culprits. However, don’t underestimate the power of the mind, as most of the time people who have come to see me have already eliminated any medical cause, which means that the underlying issue stems from psychological and emotional factors.
Why is sexual wellness so important to your relationship health?
You tell me! Why is it important to you? Clearly it must be if you are looking into coaching. Does having a healthy sexual experience with your partner bring you closer? Does sex take you to a place where you can really let go and be in the moment? Does it help you relax?
Let’s be honest, sex has so many benefits. But we’re talking about healthy sex, and by that I mean consensual, safe, relaxed, and pleasurable sex. When there are difficulties either physically, mentally, or emotionally during sex, it can be very stressful, not just during the experience, but also on the relationship and your overall wellbeing. However, when sex is going well, it can be very relaxing, uplifting (due to the”happy” chemicals that get released in our brain), emotionally fulfilling, and actually beneficial to our immune system. Regardless of the general benefits of sex, what matters most is what it means to you.
Sex is one of the pieces of the puzzle that creates a whole and meaningful relationship. Your relationship with your body has a significant impact on your sexual experience with your partner, and so it is my mission to help you have a more positive relationship with your sexuality and a fulfilling intimate life, so that you can be a healthier couple, and a happier individual.